November 11, 2009 – CIO.com – Framingham, MA, US
My Irish grandmother was fond of quoting a line from a Robert Burns’ poem about having “the giftie gie us, to see ourselves as ithers see us.” For years I thought she was talking about some leprechaun showing up with a magical mirror (blame that one on Lucky Charms commercials). But one day I finally got it. That combination of self-awareness and understanding how you’re actually coming across to others is quite a powerful communication tool. Developing this skill can also give you the gift of “executive presence,” whether you’re on a stage, in a board meeting or just one-on-one with a colleague.
“Executive presence is something people often want more of, but have no idea how to obtain,” says Carol Keers, coauthor with Thomas Mungavan of Seeing Yourself As Others Do: Authentic Executive Presence at Any Stage of Your Career. Keers and Mungavan are vice president and president, respectively, of a Minnesota-based executive coaching firm called Change Masters.
While people often think of “executive presence” as some mystical combination of strong personality, commanding stature and confident demeanor, the core skill is more about conveying authenticity. “Executive presence needs to be authentic to be believed and respected,” Keers says. “Internal authenticity is meaning what you say. External authenticity is saying what you mean.”
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