November 20, 2009 –  Connecticut Plus

Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks but for a newly divorced or divorcing person that is a very tough call. How to be thankful when your kids are with your ex for the annual feast? How to be thankful when you are filled with regret, resentment and sadness? How to pinpoint the hidden gifts in your divorce when you are feeling so badly? Gratitude is a powerful tool even when you might feel there is nothing for which to be grateful.

“ It’s the little things in our lives that we cease to notice that are capable of turning our perspective on life around” says Shelley Stile, certified Divorce recovery Coach and the author of the book, 95 Transformational Tips for Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce.

Stile is not suggesting some sort of Pollyanna-ish attitude but rather to stop and take a look at what might be good about life now versus what is bad; what might be right about life right now versus what is wrong. Looking through a lens of impossibility and life is hard will color your entire existence. To put it another way, when you are looking at everything that is wrong, you will surely find it everywhere. Read story.