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Listen to the June 20th recording below:
Listen to the June 27th recording below:
Dates: Two Fridays in June: June 20th and June 27th
Time: 10am Eastern
Host: Gordon Clark
Guest: Talane Miedaner
Suitcases packed! One month to take off! From the coast of Great Britain, host Gordon Clark and guest Talane Miedaner open our new series beginning this month.
While watching the waves off the coast of Exmouth in Devon, she and host Gordon Clark will continue the conversation unfolding on The Coaching Commons.
Together, Talane and Gordon will pick up the threads regarding the New Wave of Coaching launched with previous Uncommon Conversations calls ( see April 25, May 2, 9 and June 6). They will add to the conversation by discussing some of Talane’s favorite themes:
* attraction
* secret laws
* natural energy
* space
* emotional needs
* core values
* excellent self-care
Talane is best known as the author of Coach Yourself to Success. She is a Master Certified Coach of the International Coach Federation and a senior trainer of Coach U, Inc. where she received the designation as a Certified Coach. She is the founder of LifeCoach.com. Since the publication of her international bestseller, Talane has become the mother of two children and moved from New York City to Exmouth, off the coast of England.
Gordon will explore with her how these life changes have given Talane different perspectives on coaching, the United States and life in general. This July, she has a new book coming out: The Secret laws of Attraction: The Effortless Way to Get the Relationship You Want.
To celebrate the release of this book, Talane will be flying to New York City to lead a full- day seminar at the Ritz Carlton Central Park hotel on Saturday, July 19th. For more information, please go to http://www.lifecoach.com
The two part series beginning on Friday, June 20 and continuing on the following Friday, June 27 is part of the ongoing virtual dialogs titled 2008 – The Year of Uncommon Conversations produced by Katherine Gotshall English.
The sixty minute call will be recorded. The line will be open three minutes prior to 10:00am Eastern as host Gordon Clark welcomes listeners. Everyone joining the call will be encouraged to participate with question, comments and reflections.
As always, please post your questions/thoughts below.
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Thanks Talane for a great presentation this morning (EDT) –
I took part in your classes late 2006 and found your techniques very helpful. Today’s call reminded me that I must be aware of my needs and get them fulfulled to be attractive and effective in my business and personal relationships. I will pass on the recording to a friend who I know will benefit from your coaching classes and will look forward to receiving that information. Looking forward to your presentation next week. Happy Summer to you and all at Coaching Commons! Valerie Watson
Thank you Valerie! And thank you to everyone around the globe who joined the June 20th call.
Please join us on June 27th to stir up more lively conversation. Gordon, Talane and The Coaching Commons Team invite and welcome your comments, thoughts, questions….bring it on!
Elizabeth
If you want to join Talane in NYC on July 19, 2008 at the Ritz Carlson for a live full day seminar, The Secret Laws of Attraction, visit http://www.lifecoach.com.
Thanks, Talane and Coaching Commons. Talane, you’re very gracious to share your experience with us. I was fortunate to be off last Friday and was so pleased with the last Friday’s call that I’m actually scheduling an hour’s vacation next Friday so I can listen to the second hour!
Your talk was filled with valuable information and reinforced my current efforts to attract what I need and fulfill my needs. Thank you.
Debbie,
It was my pleasure and I’m delighted that you’ll be joining us again this week. Gordon and I are planning on inviting questions so if there was anything in specific you’d like to know, please ask!
Warmest,
Talane
I’m thoroughly enjoying this opportunity to participate in the coaching commons and think this is a great new website for coaches to get together and share ideas. I was just chatting with Katherine and Gordon on how much I missed those early years in coaching (12 years ago) when we sat around drinking wine, nibbling on cheese and talking about coaching. This is about as close to that as we can get and even better because people can participate from around the globe (like me!) I’m really looking forward to our second call on this topic so we can dive even deeper into the conversation. More exciting news! amazon.com has released my new book, The Secret Laws of Attraction, a few weeks earlier than scheduled–funny but I wasn’t quite ready! But ready or not, it is out there in the world now. I look forward to your questions this Friday.
Warmest,
Talane
Talane,
You’re probably already planning to address this in Part II on tomorrow’s call – what’s meant by “value-based activities”?
Also, how can you let go and enjoy fun activities with your spouse when you’re pretty angry because your needs aren’t being met?
This week, based on bad habits and unmet needs, I continued to do it wrong. I definitely was trying to force situations to get my needs met by my husband instead of from others. As you can imagine, that’s not going too well. It’s hard to stop doing things that don’t work even when you KNOW what the better course of action is. Is there a question there? Not sure –
Thanks for continuing to make yourself available so we (I) can continue to work on this and attract the best in life.
Debbie M.
Talane,
Thanks for an inspiring talk last week.
Two questions:
You mentioned that the process of coaching is such that you ended up attracting clients who had issues that you were working on too.
My general work experience has been around career goals and I’m currently in career transition, so it seemed natural to me to choose a niche around career transition. I also like working with creative people. I thought it would fit more naturally to coach people in an area that I’m going through myself. from your exdperience, does that work well or badly?
Also, I emailed you in relation to the Highland Battery, which I’m wanting to take myself. If I do end up coaching with career and academic as a focus, would it work well for me to get trained in interpreting that exam (something new that I haven’t done before)?
Looking forward to part two today!
Warmly,
Bea
Ha! Looks like you’ve solved your own problem. The key is to avoid asking your spouse/partner/loved on and instead get five friends and family members meeting your needs. Let your husband completely off the hook. It isn’t his job to meet your needs. Work on getting good systems for needs satisfaction and fulfillment set up so that he won’t ever have to meet your needs again. Then, you might find you can enjoy doing other fun things with him. And, you might find, that he might start fulfilling your needs down the road by choice, not because he has to. When we don’t need it, you are most likely to attract it.
As for value-based activities, we’ll talk about those today as that is the second step after needs. But essentially, these are the things you’d be doing if you had no money worries, plenty of time, and could do whatever you felt like.
Talk to you soon!
Talane
The part about the payoff and costs of a “racket” really hit home. It’s the most thought-provoking item I took away from today’s call. Thanks.
Still not clear as to what value-based activities are – there was so much good material being shared, we didn’t have the opportunity to pick your brain on that. However, the 2 calls were great and I thank you so much.
Debbie
Hi Talane,
I just got your new book! It clarifies all my questions about values I’ve posted. Can’t wait to spend time with it this weekend. Thanks again.
Debbie
I often wonder in coaching if we take language and words for granted.
In the most recent Uncommon Conversations, the noun ‘needs’, was a word repeated over and over. And in several recent comments I see the following words: values, wants, desires, hopes, dreams…..
They are simple, rather common words — yet they have me pause. Sometimes I find these words may provide surprising context and texture when intricately woven into coaching or other conversations.
How are these words used and what do they mean around the globe in culturally diverse populations? One reason I ask this is because my brother-in-law, born and raised in Paris, tells me repeatedly that there is no French equivalent for the verb ‘to want’. He says, ‘I would like ______’!
My goodness, if this is so, how many other meanings might there be (or lack of meaning) for verbs, nouns, adjectives, etc. that we in the USA use so frequently, guessing that we actually know what they mean?
Simple? Easy? Or am I just wandering around the global dictionary and thesaurus in my mind?
I am curious about the statement I read above, “This week, based on bad habits and unmet needs, I continued to do it wrong. I definitely was trying to force situations to get my needs met by my husband instead of from others.”
I agree that “forcing” someone to meet our needs is not likely to get our needs met. I’m curious about the rationale of not trying to get one’s needs met by a significant other and assuming that they should be met by people other than the significant other. Have I understood correctly that this is what is being suggested?
I looked over Talane’s book, and, as both a therapist working with couples and a coach, I’m wondering if there is any research supporting the idea that it is better to get one’s needs met outside of one’s primary relationship. This seems to be at odds with an increasing amount of psychological research about the importance of our attachment system.
I agree that many people do not realize that it’s ok to have needs and what those needs are; I agree that one should not expect others to read our mind about our needs; I agree that one person may not be able to meet all of our needs.
I am wondering, however, why we wouldn’t try first, in our relationship with a significant other, to get at least some of our basic needs such as feeling safe, understood, and valued within that relationship. It may or not be possible, but, based on research that has been done, why wouldn’t it be healthier for that relationship, and for each person in that relationship, to look to their significant other first, if they are already in a committed relationship? To suggest otherwise seems to me to be at odds with existing research, including research involving successful couples therapy.
I’m curious about other points of view about this and what they are based on, so I’m looking forward to hearing more.